3 Simple Rules To Create Instant Attraction And Chemistry With Beautiful Women

A lot of women just seem so high-maintenance these days and seem like they’re impossible to please or attract.

I get it. We live in the age of an abundance of options at one’s fingertips, so both men and women have gotten quite demanding.

But, if you understand a bit more about the Psychology of women and the subconscious differences between males and females, then attracting them and dating the women you want will be much easier for you.

This will come more natural to you because you’re working WITH the knowledge you have…

Rather than feeling frustrated or powerless because you just don’t have this understanding of women.

Now, with that being said, did you know that there are a lot of things within a man’s control that he can do to “create” more attraction and chemistry with a woman, or not?

A girl shouldn’t just show up and look pretty and expect that the man should do all the work.

Both parties should bring effort and energy into a date, yes.

But, if you’re like many men who are interested in learning the psychology of women, how they really think, in order to more easily and readily attract them, to tilt the odds in your favor of a girl saying “Wow, I REALLY want to see you again!”Then you should read these points

We have plenty of tips that we give women on how to attract men, but this post is specifically written for men to better understand and attract women.


ATTRACTION RULE #1: INCITE ‘FEELING’ THROUGH CONVERSATION


When a woman first meets a man, she is in a sense is “scanning” a man – to gauge her feelings about him and whether she wants to see him again.

But it’s important to understand this is mostly done UNCONSCIOUSLY – she isn’t even aware that she is doing that, or what exactly she is looking and scanning for.

But it’s just how women and men are “wired.”

Men are “wired” to unconsciously be scanning for signs of beauty, youth, and fertility in a woman – for the primary evolutionary purpose of his goal of reproduction.

That’s why most men won’t even give a woman a date or second chance if he meets her and she is largely overweight – it just doesn’t fit that primary evolutionary goal of his ideal of beauty and youth.

Women are doing the same thing, although the things that women are subconsciously looking for are a bit different than men’s.

This is due to the evolutionary goals of men and women… ever since the first cavemen and even happens in the animal kingdom.

SO HERE’S A LITTLE BIT MORE ABOUT THE PSYCHOLOGY BEHIND WHY WOMEN WANT OR DON’T WANT A SECOND DATE.

She needs to FEEL something – a spark. A connection. This has less to do with your “Credentials” on paper, and much more to do with “Do you incite a FEELING in her?” (Primarily, is she experiencing feelings like genuine enjoyment with you, pleasure, laughter… and sexual excitement?)
Are you demonstrating, in some subtle ways, that you can fulfill her “3 Primal Needs” that women seek in a man – Providership, Protection, & Sex/Reproduction?
Just like you need to feel a spark for her, she needs to feel that spark for you.

But for women, unlike men, that “spark” has much less to do with your looks or qualities “on paper” (like if you’re “hot” or you have a ferrari or 6-pack abs)

And conversely, just because you are extremely nice and treat her like the perfect gentleman, does not guarantee you a second date either.

Women need to feel. If we’re not feeling anything (particularly in our lower regions consisting of butterflies in our stomach – and one other place), we’ll most likely not going to feel excited to see you again.

So let’s start with the feeling first.

The KEY to attraction, seduction, and awesome relationships with women all lies in the CONVERSATION.

Conversation is King.

It is your key that unlocks all layers of women because through conversation – you create the connection with a woman (or you don’t).

And only through being able to create a connection with a woman can you then be able to unlock the next levels with women – attracting her, seducing her, and beyond.

Master your conversational skills and you’ll master your attraction and seduction skills.

I’ve coached over 2000 men in the last 10 years and most of whom are not naturally good conversationalists. They typically come across too dull or emotionally void to women, and thus no emotional feelings are triggered in her.

Especially the more left-brain dominant, technical guys (you know who you are!) – often the brilliant Engineers and Analysts of the world – tend to be the least effective conversationalists with women. More on that and why that is in another post.

But in short, most left-brainers and guys tend to talk to women like they talk to other guys – in more concise, factual language instead of emotional or personal language.

But women are different (duh)- our brains are wired differently, and we communicate much differently than men.

This is one big area of difference.
HERE IS AN EXAMPLE OF WHAT I CALL “FACTUAL LANGUAGE” VERSUS “EMOTIONAL/PERSONAL LANGUAGE.”:
So, what do you do at your job as a Nurse? How many days a week do you work?
So Where did you grow up? Oh, what’s the weather like over in Michigan
How long ago did you move here? What part of LA do you live in now?

These kinds of questions may be necessary sometimes as a “launching pad,” but too many of them will get boring and repetitive quickly for a woman, and they don’t incite any feelings or emotional stimulation from her.

Basically, I like to say that if you can technically Google the answer to your question, then it’s a factual question.

Women respond better to language and questions that require more of an emotional or personal answer that’s unique to only her. Something she can share her personal opinion, experience or feelings on.

For example:
Oh wow you’re a nurse, so what inspired you to become a Nurse? What do you love most about your work?
What are your favorite and least favorite things about Michigan?
So how do you really feel about the guys, do you like them better out in Michigan or in LA? (said in a teasing way)

Think for a minute about how women talk with other women… It’s much different how men talk with other guys!

Here’s a typical guy’s conversation with another guy:

Guy #1: So how was your date last night bro?

Guy #2: Oh it was good.

Guy #1: Nice. Was she hot?

Guy #2: Yeah. For sure. It went well.

Guy #1: Awesome. Did you bang her / Think you’ll see her again?

Guy #2: Yup/Not yet / Hope so.

It’s short and minimal, to the point. That would probably last 5 minutes, max.

Men usually communicate in terms of logistics and the bare necessities to get the point across. Communication is more functional for guys.

Now with women, I’m not even going to type out what that whole conversation would be because it would be far too long. That 3-minute conversation between guy friends, would be about an hour amongst girl friends!

Women talk in much more detail, they want descriptions, the juicy details, and want to know the feelings behind events that happened.

Talking is how women bond.

I get that some woman may ramble on a bit about things that don’t interest you and you are forced to smile and ask questions… it can be annoying and boring to guys.

But like it or hate it, when women share more personal things that are from her heart, and you get into discussions that involve your personal feelings about something, experiences, thoughts and perspectives, she is a lot more engaged and stimulated.

This then creates the fertile breeding environment for optimal flirting and her feeling a strong connection and chemistry with you.

ATTRACTION RULE #2: ESTABLISH RAPPORT THROUGH EYE CONTACT


#2: Non-Verbal Communication & Eye Contact:

Eye contact is an incredibly essential element of nonverbal communication, that is a tool for creating attraction with women. Women can “sense” a lot about a guy – what kind of guy he is, whether he is confident or not, strong or not, authentic or not – through his eyes and eye contact.

It’s very important to have good, confident eye contact with the woman on your date. Looking away a lot when you or she is talking is a sign of weakness, insecurity, and in-authenticity to a woman.

Also, through your eyes is where you project sensual energy toward a woman. It should be used for that purpose too.

So here’s one easy trick for eye contact you should start implementing:

Every so often during the date, look into her eyes a bit more intensely and for longer than you normally would. And during those few seconds, in your head, imagine that you’re deeply designing to kiss her. Feel that sensual energy building up inside you and project it onto her. Look down at her lips again, then look back at her eyes again, and then look away.

Ideally, if she blushes, giggles, or smiles, congratulations – you’ve just created a chemistry spark in her.

#3: UNDERSTAND WOMEN’S 3 “PRIMAL SUBCONSCIOUS NEEDS”


Women and men both have primal, subconscious needs which are designed to have us target who to breed with and who to weed out.

We already know that men are “wired” to unconsciously be scanning for signs of beauty, youth, and fertility in a woman – so if a girl is hot, you’re most likely attracted.

But women don’t necessarily care as much about a guy’s physical looks. An average or even below-average looking guy can easily get a girl who looks like a supermodel, if he displays certain qualities that weigh much more heavily in attraction for women.

These qualities that demonstrate on a subconscious level that you can fulfill a woman’s 3 deep primal needs: That you can protect her, have some sort of financial stability (“providership”) and can be a good “reproducer” (aka sex) with her.

And again, she is picking up signals of these things mostly unconsciously.

Here’s how you can demonstrate that you can fulfill each of these primal, unconscious needs for her, on that first date.

PROVIDERSHIP:

I know dates these days can be expensive and add up! My heart does go out to the guy because going on lots of dates can totally add up, and it sucks when a guy pays or a date only to have a girl tell him she wants to just “be friends” after.

But, I have to say in all my years of being a Coach for men and women, I’ve found that some traditional concepts should still be kept and even though times have changed and women’s salaries often equal or exceed a man’s now, I still think it’s best if the guy just pays for the first date.

Women REALLY appreciate this, as annoying as it might be to you. Also then there’s no fussing about who is paying the bill as it just sits there awkwardly gathering dust. After the first or second date then you may want to have her contribute more.

Also, dressing sharply instead of super casual and incorporating some subtle comments or stories here and there that demonstrate that you are successful and have goals in life, or at least en-route to being successful, is attractive to a woman and makes her feel safe and secure with you.

Most women aren’t gold-diggers. If you do come across one (presuming you don’t want one), then run! And if she doesn’t at least say “Thank you” after you do pay, then she may not be someone you want to see again!”

That’s not what you want or what I’m saying here. But just like a woman’s physical beauty is one of those unconscious, instinctively important elements to every man, because of his “wiring,” a man who is driven can at least show that he can bring some “providership” to the table, even if she’s a career woman herself, is instinctively important to women.

It’s not a superficial thing, it’s a biological human nature thing.

There are extreme’s of each side though. There are many guys who ONLY go for a super hot woman who’s got fake boobs and looks like Pamela anderson and doesn’t care what kind of a person she is inside.

Just like there are some women out there who are gold-diggers and go after a guy if he is rich and doesn’t care about the person or heart inside. But we’re not talking about those extreme women here.

PROTECTORSHIP:


Deep in the heart of every woman, is a longing to admire and respect a man so greatly, she feels like he’s her “hero.”

Blame Disney movies or warrior movies like Braveheart, but again this goes back to our instinctual primal “wiring.”

As strong and successful, and self-sufficient many women these days are (or claim to be) women still desire those heroic qualities in men.

Deep down, woman want to feel like if “stuff” hits the fan, if there were any “bad guys” or threats, our man can protect us and our (possible) children, take care of situations and lead us out of harm’s way.

So this doesn’t mean you have to look like you spend hours at the gym or act like Superman, but you demonstrate signs of “protectiveness” by demonstrating confidence, some assertiveness, and ability to lead.

Through your body language, make sure your posture is tall and confident throughout the date, you speak with confidence and authority, and you are mostly “leading” the date throughout – rather than just sitting in the passive passengers seat and “going with the flow.”


SEX/REPRODUCTION:


The ways this comes through is again with your confidence and assertiveness, but also believe it or not, through displaying a sense of humour and playfulness.

We covered sensual eye contact before. In addition to that, attempt to make her laugh at least a few times throughout the date and be playful with her. For whatever reason, women believe that if you can make her laugh, then you can make her you-know-what in bed.

Laughing is such an aphrodisiac for women. Laughing stimulates us and makes us feel excited by the guy!

So now that you know a little more about female Psychology, if you’re interested in improving your results with women, start trying out these Authentic Attraction techniques on your next dates or even first conversations with women, and she is highly likely to FEEL those gut-level feelings of attraction and desire toward you.

And, she will more likely put you in the category of a “high-value, date-able man,” so she will be eager to answer your texts and see you again very soon.

The purpose of explaining the 3 primal needs is for you to understand that is unconscious, it’s not meant to create unnecessary pressure and expectation on you as a man.

Source: https://thoughtcatalog.com/deanna-lorraine/2017/07/3-simple-rules-to-create-instant-attraction-and-chemistry-with-beautiful-women/

Does She Want Emotional Connection Before She Wants Sex?

5 ways to to achieve emotional connection.

Posted Feb 12, 2017






Source: PIKSEL/iStockphoto - used with permission

Jim complained that his wife didn’t want to have sex with him unless she felt emotionally connected to him. He had no idea what she was talking about.

Women and men both want to feel deeply attuned with their partner whether it begins from talking or begins with sex. While most frequently I hear women express the need for emotional connection before they want to have sex, one man whose wife wanted more sex than he did, expressed something similar by saying, “We’re always bickering; I don’t feel very sexual unless there is peace in our home.” But usually men talk about how sex is the start of feeling connected making it safe to open up emotionally.

Then, what is emotional connection and how can you get it? Emotional connection means feeling like, “You get me and you’re on my side!” It is paying attention, empathy, loyalty, and vulnerability. Here are 5 important ways that you can help your partner feel your emotional support and connection:

1. Be present.

In the midst of a world busier than any of us could have imagined, knowing our partner’s needs, world and dreams is the first step in becoming emotionally connected. Regularly, for short time periods, we have to tune out the noise of our world and tune into what is really going on with our spouse. Every day we have to take time to invest our attention in our marriage instead of taking it for granted.


Don’t think you already know everything there is to know about your spouse. You don’t. You couldn’t. We’re all too complicated. Ask some interesting questions and listen to the answers with undivided attention.


Start today with light and small inquiries and ask progressively deeper and broader questions. Listen and reflect but don’t judge or get defensive. Here are some suggestions to help:
“Tell me what you are the proudest of accomplishing today.”
“What was today’s biggest frustration?”
“If you could change one thing about your life (body, personality, children, job, house, etc.,) what would it be?”
“Tell me three emotions you’ve felt today.”
“What is your favorite sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch?”


2. Be responsive.


Marital research by John and Julie Gottman1 shows that happily married couples predictably turn towards their partner 86% of the time when he/she makes a bid for their attention.


For instance, when your partner asks you a question, even if you are at your computer, turning towards means looking up and answering. When your partner makes a sexual bid with a “hey baby!” and raised eyebrows or a flirtatious innuendo, turning towards means a smile, a laugh, a positive acknowledgement of their desire for you.


Even if you can’t fully respond at the exact moment your partner texts you – you might text back, “Catch ya in 30, going into a meeting.”


Or you text, “Sorry, running errands all am; just saw yr mssg!”


Completing the circle of communication shows respect for the importance of your relationship.


3. Be empathic.


Murmur. Hug. Care. Feel your partner’s struggle from the inside of their world. Recognize how human it is to wrestle with something – the same thing - for great lengths of time.



Don’t express frustration or boredom at hearing about a repetitive problem. We need someone to recognize our angst in the midst of OUR struggle, not solve it or give advice. Ask open-ended questions to elicit more of the story rather than leading questions that might indicate your biased suggestions.


Open-ended: “What did you feel when he said that?”


Closed-ended: “Well, did you tell him your opinion and how dumb his idea was?”


4. Be loyal.


Be on their team! Reassure your partner that you are appreciative of all they do and of all they are.


Never use your spouse’s confidences as a time to drive home a point about their similar failure with you. Find a way to understand their perception even if you think they are doing the wrong thing. Keep investigating your partner’s point of view rather than siding with the other person in their story.


I’m not saying that we should never offer an opinion about a harmful direction that our partner is headed. But if you do think your partner is in trouble, wait to offer a different opinion when they are less emotional, wait until you are asked what you think, wait and then be very kind in giving your thoughts.


5. Be vulnerable yourself.


In order for an emotional connection to click, each person has to “expose their emotions” says researcher and social scientist, Brene Brown. Over the course of a marriage, it is not enough to be the listener, you have to be the talker and revealer as well. Sharing about your pride and ambition is important. You too must admit to your difficulties and human failings.


Listen to Laurie's new podcast FOREPLAY - Radio Sex Therapy with couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews on iTunes or Sticther. CONTACT Laurie online for clinical consultations.


Are you the pursuer or distancer—emotionally or sexually? Use my free Loveand Sex Style QUIZ or visit my website to learn more about couples and sex therapy.




Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/married-and-still-doing-it/201702/does-she-want-emotional-connection-she-wants-sex



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How to Build an Emotional Connection

An emotional connection is one of those fleeting, powerful things that can seem all too rare and all too outside one's control. It can seem like it's just chance when you happen upon one -- as if but by the grace of God it came into being.

But it doesn't have to be. Just like succeeding with women in general -- just like figuring out how to launch businesses and succeed financially -- just like anything in life -- the ability to build an emotional connection is something that can be learned.

Most people don't like to hear that. Most people want to think that all in life is pure happenstance and nothing other than fate determines the outcome of their lives. But those of us actively in pursuit of bettering ourselves and of mastering the skills to control our own destinies know better -- that a lot less in life is chance than most folks think.

A lot of it is skill.

And learning to connect with people on an emotional level is one of the most powerful, practical, wide-reaching skills you can possibly learn. If you haven't given much thought to this one before, it's high time you started.

"THE OTHER"

In the mid-20th century, French psychoanalyst Jacques-Marie-Émile Lacan developed the concept of "the other," originally introduced by German philosopher Georg Hegel in the early 1800s and now a pillar of modern day psychological models. What the idea of "the other" holds is that every person sees everything else in the world -- including every other human being -- as being either the same as him or herself -- or other.

It's easy to gather how othering -- as the verb form is called in psychological parlance -- would serve to keep our ancestors living and thriving. Those who aren't with us may be against us and need to be watched carefully and be subject to suspicion, unless and until they can prove they're on the same wavelength as us.

Even today, in our far safer world with a far lower mortality rate than at any other point in history, othering helps keep us safe; it protects us from people who might potentially be a threat to us and helps us stick to those who understand us best and ally with us and are most likely to help us succeed and go to bat for us in times of need.

For the seducer though, and for anyone else who seeks to achieve mastery at building emotional connections with others, the question of the other presents a unique problem -- and an unparalleled opportunity.

That's because most people are very good at positioning themselves as the other, and not so good at showing how they are the same.

And emotional connection, at its very core, is all about helping others see you as the same as them: as someone who gets them, is bonded to them, and understands them to the quick of them.

But I'm getting ahead of myself. First things first: you need to realize the things you're doing that position you as "other" in the mind of girls you like.

And before you can do that, I want to call your attention to how you view some women as "other" right now. First, think of a certain kind of woman you dislike. Maybe it's those Barbie dolls who dress themselves up and think so highly of themselves -- all you want is to get a real girl. Maybe it's fat women if you're skinny, or skinny women if you're fat -- who wants a woman that disgusting (fat) or that much a bag of bones (skinny)? Or maybe it's the hardcore feminists and the women's libbers -- if anyone falls into the "other" category for most men, it's got to be them -- they hate men!

And now that I've got you all riled up thinking of your most hated enemies in the opposite sex, stop and think.

Are they really all bad, horrible, good-for-nothing people? Do they really have nothing to offer to humanity?

Or are you just broad-handedly, ham-fistedly, categorically tossing them into a stereotyped category of "other" and deciding they're stone-hearted individuals who simply can't be related to as people?

If you stop and you're really, truly honest with yourself, you'll realize they're people just like you are and just like the people you don't consider "other" are, and there really isn't anything wrong with them. They're just living a different life you don't fully relate to, and they have different reactions to you and feelings about you too.

Personally, girls who dress über flashy I used to not like all that much because they used to be colder toward me; and heftier girls I didn't like a whole lot because (aside from my own personal preferences for women with thin waists) they tended to snap at me even when I was just being friendly and social a lot of the time.

So, for a while, those kinds of women got tossed into the "other" category for me.

Who's in your other category?

But tackling your own list of others isn't the object of this post. For doing some internal work in that regard, check out "Reference Points and Changing Worldviews."

I just wanted to point out that "the other" is very real and a psychological mechanism we're all subject to. And that includes the women you meet.

You see, most men, while trying to build an emotional connection with women, inadvertently tend to flip girls' "other" switches. They do some knuckleheaded things that get them booted out of contention for the same and quickly slotted into the other.

And once you're an "other," good luck trying to get a girl to do... well... ANYTHING with you.

WHERE MOST GUYS GO WRONG IN EMOTIONAL CONNECTION-BUILDING

So how do you avoid being an "other;" any idea?

Let's define what most guys are doing wrong... the things that kill their chances at building a connection and being viewed as "the same."

• Throwing out contentious opinions. Men are a lot more susceptible to this than women are for some reason. Okay, not "some reason"... women are a lot more socially attuned than the average man and just don't do this. 
  
  What's a contentious opinion? Let's say you're talking to a girl, and the two of you talk about exercise. "You know what I hate?" you say. "Yoga. What a silly waste of time that is." 
  
  Then she tells you she runs a yoga studio. 
  
  By way of another example, say she makes the off-hand remark that she absolutely loathes men who spend hours watching sports every week... but unbeknownst to her, you spend hours watching sports every week. The instant she states that opinion, you feel less connected to her. That's the kind of thing you want to avoid doing to women -- but so many men do it, and keep doing it, more or less obliviously.

• Failing to build consensus. Women are very good at building consensus. Men often aren't. The men who fail to build consensus regularly tend to leave women feeling ignored or marginalized when they make unilateral decisions; women can end up feeling their needs haven't been attended to, and they lose a lot of connectedness to the man making the unilateral decision. 
  
  This, you might say, is bad form. You can still be the leader and still direct things your way; in fact, women typically will be looking for you to make the decisions and lead the charge. But they still want to feel included. 
  
  When men fail to include women in the decision making process and instead make those unilateral decisions, women end up feeling left out -- not just of the decision itself, but of the man's consideration altogether too.

• Never going beyond the superficial. Deep diving is an effective tool for a reason: it gets women telling you about themselves, beyond the ordinary, and bonding to you on who they really are. You aren't "other" if you know them and get them to an intimate degree. Most men never do this though, and instead let their conversation remain in the realm of the common and the surface-level.

• Forgetting to actively listen and provide good feedback. As discussed in the post on becoming an exceptional conversationalist, one of the things that makes a woman begin bonding to and relating to a man is his ability to show her that he's listening to, relating to, and understanding what she's saying. Most men don't do this, either because they aren't really listening, or because they're too caught up in trying to be impressive to really be there in the moment and feed back to a woman what she's saying. When a man fails to feed back a woman's conversation to her, she feels like her words are falling on deaf ears -- on ears that don't really care. Thus, the man she's talking to must not relate -- he must be "other."

These are the mistakes most guys end up making that poison their ability to really connect and bond with a woman.

And if you want to do better than most guys, you're going to need to do a little better than this.

HOW TO BUILD AN EMOTIONAL CONNECTION

You want to get out of ending up considered "other" and into being thought of as "the same." How you do that is by building an emotional connection.

The man who knows how to build an emotional connection is the man who's able to control his own fate, so to speak, when it comes to connecting with others. He's no longer at the mercy of destiny, hoping for that spark to manifest; instead, he controls its manifestation. "Chemistry" is at his beck and call.

To build an emotional connection though, you're going to need to do the opposite of what most men do -- the opposite of those places we just laid out above, where most men go wrong.

You'll need to be focused on bonding instead of whatever it is regular guys are focused on (proving how amazing they are, I guess?).

Some of this is going to be similar to what we talked about in "The Conversationalist;" if anything sounds familiar, just view it as a refresher. Some of it's going to be different. All of it's going to be focused, first and foremost, on building that emotional connection and avoiding the label of "other" that so many men put themselves into.

Here are the tools you'll need to build an emotional connection:

1. Avoid arguments and contention, and hold your tongue on divisive opinions. At least until you're fairly certain she shares those divisive opinions of yours, anyway. You're very nationalistic, and she's from another country? Probably not a great idea to get into singing your home country's praises too loudly. Instead, talk about stuff you can both agree on -- interests, hobbies. Maybe both of you like art, or played sports in high school, or hate office desk jobs. Doesn't matter what it is -- so long as it's something you relate to each other on.

2. Build consensus. You don't have to hold a vote, exactly, but you should ask for buy in. Like so: "I'm thinking we should hit the pizza parlor. Do you like pizza?" That way she feels included in the decision. You get the added bonus of once she's bought in, she'll support the decision -- rather than attack it or resist it, as women may do with decisions they haven't bought into. 
   
   Skip this one in obvious time-to-lead situations, such as when you're moving her somewhere quiet or secluded, or when you're taking her home. But when it's not as much of a do-or-die situation, yeah -- get buy-in. It helps. Quite a lot, sometimes.

3. Get to the nitty gritty ASAP. Quick, how connected do you feel to someone you've spoken with for ten minutes who still knows nothing about you other than where you went to college, where you're originally from, and what you do for work right now? Not a whole lot, right? 
   
   By focusing on getting under a girl's hood fast -- by getting to her deeper self -- you allow her to connect to you deeply and rapidly and get out of the "other" zone. This is where deep diving comes in, and why going beyond the superficial is so crucial in everything other than fast pulls.

4. Listen actively and provide feedback. This can be as simple as repeating back to a girl what she's said to you but with different words. e.g., she tells you about how her father taught her to sail, and you respond with, "That's so very cool you had a dad who taught you to sail. How good did you end up getting?" By actively listening / providing feedback, you show that you listen, and you show that you get it.

Most important about all of these is that they're signature markers of "sameness" and identify you as in-group, rather than out-group. They let you skirt the stigma of "other" that so many men seem so good at getting slapped onto their foreheads, and aid you in building a real, genuine emotional connection with women.

Futher, once you're good at knowing how to build an emotional connection, you become that rare individual others can connect to well -- distinguishing yourself from everyone else.

The ability to build an emotional connection allows you to build friends and allies with on a highly consistent basis. And, it makes you a heck of a closer -- you know that, given the opportunity to talk to a girl, the two of you are probably going to end up connecting very well.

All you really need to start is a focus on connecting, instead of obliviously blundering into "other" territory like most guys do. Knowing is half the battle... and the techniques above are the other half.

Hope you enjoy using them. Yours, Chase Amante

Source: https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-build-emotional-connection